A little over a year ago, I was trying to fit all my responsibilities, plans, wishes and chores into the coming weeks and months. I worked to create a more-or-less reasonable day where I would feel a semblance of progress in both work and house chores, and have time and energy to spend with children. I needed progress, I craved progress, I was used to feeling busy and achieving something tangible.
This is when I saw my life of the last almost 20 years as an endless race. It was a cavalry, conquering new lands at a fast pace. Vast territories were obtained. But in a rush to get to new horizons, whatever was already owned was left behind with no one to tend to it, to grow the crops and enjoy the riches. I now had a house, a family with a loving husband and 4 children, an advanced degree, a potential respected career had I wanted to follow it. I even had my calling figured out and a little new business registered and ready to do good with that calling! Now was the time to start chasing the new heights and build my new great and glowing business…
Or not… I realized that the race was keeping me focused on what was to come, and I was missing the Now. I took a lot of things for granted. The children were fed, clothed and taken care of as long as my To-Do list was checked off and stuff got done. I was reasonably rested now, but mostly because my husband took care of chores and school lunches. So I had time to squeeze just a little more into my to-do list. SIgn up for another thing here and there. And while it was satisfying and I was proud of my achievements (for a split second before I lost interest in what I’ve just done because something new had to be conquered), I was craving fulfillment. I wanted to do what was important to me. What i Wanted, not only what needed to be done. To actually notice and remember my children growing. I wanted to be accessible to them, to make memories. I wanted to find joy in the Now, and allow myself to rest, slow down, declutter my mind, my life, my space. It was time to determine what’s important and let go of what’s not.
The quest for fulfillment and simplifying has started. I have read and listened about slowing down and becoming more easy-going, joyful and authentic. About becoming courageous, setting limits and taking care of myself. I keep researching and observing those who seem to live steady, happy and grounded lives, raise children with simplicity and purpose. It’s a fascinating and rewarding journey. I’d like to share it with you. I am by no means there yet, but I will be happy to share what I’ve learned so far, and listen to your experiences, challenges and successes.
We will take a look at a rule-following obedient, determined and successful ‘good girl’, talk about following the rules and reasons to bend or break them, the courage to be yourself, and the boldness to speak your truth, the self-care and the slowing down, the being efficient and living in the moment, the stress, the love, and the fulfillment.
If this is something you are interested in, come join the Facebook Group
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share and invite those who you think might benefit from these discussions and (soon to be growing) resources.
More about the planned conversations will come in the following announcements. Come, let’s make it valuable, useful, and even fun. In the meantime, if you have questions or topics you would like covered, please feel free to comment here or in the Facebook group.
See you there!
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